Emotions - Expressions needed?
I am not an emotional person! Whoever says this, I think it is stupid. That one is the most emotionsl inside. After all that is what makes us humane. Differentiates us from animals. Otherwise, we as well call ourselves animals and not homo sapien sapiens. However, the majority of this species would vouch that you need to show your emotions. Otherwise you are not a part of the ecosystem.
I for a change beg to differ. One,who has given the right to dictate my feelings and the way I express them. I can be as emotional as anyone, yet due to the inability to express, I might not be seen as one. The truth is those who cannot express are more submissive, more prone to emotional effects. Just because they dont express or show does not mean they are hard, cast in stone. We are different, and that's what makes us unique. We might not be able to express ourselves, but we bleed as much as you do, we feel hurt as much as you do, we feel happy as much as anyone does.
Maybe we lack in expressing the same. Maybe we do that because we do not want to be seen ourselves as vulnerable. Not that showing emotions help. People who are really close to you should and would understand you. Those are the ones you really bank on. Who do not judge you, but accept you as you are. Support your goodies, and hold your hand to show how you can overcome your lackings.
These kind of people do not give advice,they just stay beside you throughout. These kind of homo sapien sapiens are a rare breed in themselves. Normally, judgement is the second nature for us. Totally acceptable when it comes to sya that, this is absolutely normal. But what happens when that normalcy is not true for everyone. Actually, most of us do not know the right way to express ourselves. And, there lies the problem as we keep expecting things from others where we lack. I cannot express, so I expect you to express more. You cannot talk your feelings, but you are supposed to as I cannot as well. Expectations!!! The death word that kills any relation.
In an ideal world, an ideal person is one who does not judge you, does not relate to you for what you should be, rather what you are. The moment you have got one like that who has stood beside you no matter what, is precious at any level. Because that person, trust in me, would stay woth you foreever. Would suggest ways that maybe right, but never judge you, accept you happily as you are and most importantly, allow you to be yourself.
When do we know we are comfortable with a person and can rely on the one who would stand for me as I am? According to me, it should be that one with whom you can go for a drive without the need to speak any word at all. Not come any physical contact, but yet feel that strong presence of being there for each other. And surprisingly, in most cases that person you would never find physically with you, but whenever you need, he/she would be there providing you mental support and allowing you to be what you want to be, not what the world wants you to be.
And that person, who can be most hated for you, is your best pal...trust me my friend, preserve that one relation... because it is devoid of expectations, definitions yet so strong that when you close your eyes you can see not the person, but the relation...do not ever put a name to it, just remind yourself how many times that person has stood beside you never asking questions to your actions, but backing you throughout...and for that particular relation, which is most important and surviving....
You do not need to express emotions... that person would know in a snap...Emotional expressions?? Not needed...
I for a change beg to differ. One,who has given the right to dictate my feelings and the way I express them. I can be as emotional as anyone, yet due to the inability to express, I might not be seen as one. The truth is those who cannot express are more submissive, more prone to emotional effects. Just because they dont express or show does not mean they are hard, cast in stone. We are different, and that's what makes us unique. We might not be able to express ourselves, but we bleed as much as you do, we feel hurt as much as you do, we feel happy as much as anyone does.
Maybe we lack in expressing the same. Maybe we do that because we do not want to be seen ourselves as vulnerable. Not that showing emotions help. People who are really close to you should and would understand you. Those are the ones you really bank on. Who do not judge you, but accept you as you are. Support your goodies, and hold your hand to show how you can overcome your lackings.
These kind of people do not give advice,they just stay beside you throughout. These kind of homo sapien sapiens are a rare breed in themselves. Normally, judgement is the second nature for us. Totally acceptable when it comes to sya that, this is absolutely normal. But what happens when that normalcy is not true for everyone. Actually, most of us do not know the right way to express ourselves. And, there lies the problem as we keep expecting things from others where we lack. I cannot express, so I expect you to express more. You cannot talk your feelings, but you are supposed to as I cannot as well. Expectations!!! The death word that kills any relation.
In an ideal world, an ideal person is one who does not judge you, does not relate to you for what you should be, rather what you are. The moment you have got one like that who has stood beside you no matter what, is precious at any level. Because that person, trust in me, would stay woth you foreever. Would suggest ways that maybe right, but never judge you, accept you happily as you are and most importantly, allow you to be yourself.
When do we know we are comfortable with a person and can rely on the one who would stand for me as I am? According to me, it should be that one with whom you can go for a drive without the need to speak any word at all. Not come any physical contact, but yet feel that strong presence of being there for each other. And surprisingly, in most cases that person you would never find physically with you, but whenever you need, he/she would be there providing you mental support and allowing you to be what you want to be, not what the world wants you to be.
And that person, who can be most hated for you, is your best pal...trust me my friend, preserve that one relation... because it is devoid of expectations, definitions yet so strong that when you close your eyes you can see not the person, but the relation...do not ever put a name to it, just remind yourself how many times that person has stood beside you never asking questions to your actions, but backing you throughout...and for that particular relation, which is most important and surviving....
You do not need to express emotions... that person would know in a snap...Emotional expressions?? Not needed...
posted by cyberoam at 10:10 PM
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